A Poem For the Masses

A few months back I wrote a post about all the shit women hear day in and day out for the entirety of their lives about how they should look and how they should feel. I took the nineteen that I hear the most often myself and listed them as A Poem From the Masses, something other people wrote for me that I really had nothing to do with.

Since attending Tony Robbins’ seminar one of the most effective changes I’ve made has been switching up my iTunes playlist, especially when I’m at the gym. I never listened to my own music at the gym actually and now I can’t imagine not doing it. My workouts have improved tenfold as has my overall excitement for life.

Not all pop stars are created equal. There’s a mess of self-involved crap out there but there’s also a ton of talent that gets overlooked by folks who generally prefer NPR podcasts to anything upbeat and mainstream. (I’m pointing at myself here.) But as you can imagine, Tony is very specific about what he plays at his events. It’s not just a blurry mix of auto-tuned Pop-Tarts. These songs are strategically placed and, if you let them, they really get you thinking happy thoughts.

We all know the catchy choruses of most Top 40 songs, but have you slowed down to catch the golden nuggets in the verses?

Here I give you nineteen of my favorites. A Poem FOR the Masses, written to express how I see my place in the world and what I reach for on a daily basis, regardless of all the haters who I have really come to understand are indeed going to hate.

Don’t try to sing, just read. SO MUCH LOVE ❤

After a hurricane comes a rainbow
Maybe a reason why all the doors are closed: so you could open one that leads you to the perfect road
This road leads where your heart is
It’s always been inside of you and now it’s time to let it through
Life will never be the same
There’s nothing wrong with loving who you are
Lose an inhibition, follow your intuition, free your inner soul and break away from tradition
Rejoice and love yourself today, ’cause baby you were born this way
You hear my voice, you hear that sound, like thunder gonna shake the ground
I went from zero to my own hero
I see the future, but live for the moment
I see this life like a swinging vine, swing my heart across the line
Seek it out and ye shall find
Everything that drowns me makes me wanna fly
And I feel something so right by doing the “wrong” thing
Let’s break right out of these gilded cages
Let’s stop time and enjoy this moment
Celebrate cause that’s all I know
We’ll never let them change us

Pay attention to what you let into your ears and eyes. It will change your view of the world in a really beautiful way. Here’s a link to my new playlist. Enjoy!

Sweet New Rituals for Life

It’s quite possible that the most important thing I learned at the Tony Robbins seminar was this: I simply cannot jump up & down and raise the roof without smiling. And furthermore, jumping up & down and raising the roof while simultaneously being depressed/angry/ annoyed/frustrated/sad/upset/guilty/enter-any-negative-emotion-here-that-you-want… can be done by no one. It is impossible.

That probably sounds flippant. Really Jen, you spent $600 on a ticket and flew cross-country to pump your hands in the air?

Umm… Yah 🙂

I will drop hints of every nugget I learned from that gigantic force of nature to anyone who will listen every day for the rest of my life. And a lot of it is going to sound simple. The specifics of the actions we choose to make us happy are individual and somewhat irrelevant. It’s the strategy of waking up every day and doing them over and over and over to break old patterns, condition our minds and set new standards that matters.

I have a long list of new daily To Do’s but my morning ritual is by far my favorite. Immediately upon waking I’m priming myself for an amazing day with a breathing exercise similar to Kundalini Breath of Fire and ten minutes of gratitude meditation, followed immediately by a mini-dance party to Flo Rida’s Club Can’t Even Handle Me with hella roof raising.

I dare you to try it and tell me you can do it without laughing.

And that moment of laughing and happy and life is good – that’s called a Peak State. That’s where I want to live.

So much of what we eat and think brings us down or holds us at a steady low without us even noticing. We know the phrases “We are what we eat” and “What we think we become.” But how often do we attack our status quo with healthy food and healthy thoughts? And don’t we feel better every single time we do?

At the seminar I resolved to take the sugar out of my diet and sprinkle it into my life one happy gesture and thought at a time. So far it’s been the best decision of my life.

Last Year of This Life Indeed

I would like to tell you everything I learned at the Tony Robbins seminar I just returned from except that would be impossible. It would take me at least 50 hours (which is how long UPW is) and a lot of dance music, flashing lights and more hugs and high fives than you’ve probably received in your entire life. But even then it wouldn’t make enough sense to really stick. The words are out there, all of them. We’ve read them; we’ve heard them; we’ve pretended to understand them and put them to work on ourselves. But without the experience they don’t hold enough weight.

Tony Robbins is not a motivator. He is a strategist who relies on a system of total immersion to snap us out of negative patterns and set new ones. He teaches us how our brains and emotions work while giving us the strategies that will help us focus and change our thoughts.

I’m not a different person now. However I am the happiest, clearest, biggest version of myself that I’ve ever been. All I want is to keep moving forward from this height and to keep growing, never to sink back down to where I used to be.

For god’s sake people I walked over hot coals, six times hotter than any stove you’ve ever burnt yourself on, and I didn’t feel a thing! The concept of mind over matter has been stretched to a whole new level of meaning for me.

Some of the most helpful nuggets of wisdom I gleaned were about how the movies on repeat in our minds were shot by amateurs, tiny little six year old versions of us who had no real clue what they were witnessing. How many times have you told a toddler they can’t do something outrageously dangerous and they threw a fit, screaming about how much you hate them?

It’s perfectly fine that at three years old they can’t figure out that you’re keeping them safe because you love them. What’s not fine is when we’re still replaying those same videos in our heads thirty years later and we’re not even aware of it. There is a science to the fact that we all unconsciously hold ourselves back.

We rely on 2 million year old brains wired for survival and expect them to bring us happiness. That’s not possible without a working compound interest strategy that we grow with gratitude and positive reinforcement every single day. Seriously if we all approached ourselves like puppies at obedience class getting treats and love for everything we ever got right, we would all go A LOT farther in our lives.

We grow or we die. It’s up to us which one we choose. I can say with certainty that this is the last year of life as I’ve known it in a much bigger sense than when it started. I couldn’t give two shits about finding a boyfriend or a husband right now. I’ve got a book to finish and an Iron Man to train for!

Long distance hugs and high fives! ❤ ❤ ❤


So then what I did was I walked across hot coals in bare feet. And, as it turns out, this is how excited for life one looks after one does such a thing:

Day one was above and beyond anything I could have imagined. So much to tell you but I’ve been going non-stop for almost 17 hours. It is time for some much needed sleep.

LOVE & LIGHT ❤ ❤ ❤



Refreshed and Ready To Go!

I love my puppy Tobi. Most nights he sleeps in my bed like a restless 35 lb. toddler. He changes position on the hour and growls at me if I accidentally touch him or roll towards him.

In the morning when I wake up he is always in the dead center of the bed, sound asleep in the most peaceful way, with me uncomfortably twisted around his tiny, yet somehow enormous, body so as not to disturb him in any way.

I love my puppy Tobi.

I also love sprawling out across a plush king size bed, sleeping like the dead myself and awaking naturally to the sun rising over L.A. with a sweet view from the 12th floor of this awesome hotel. Good morning world!

Thank you Orbitz for this crazy deal! Thank you life for granting me the means to get here!

Unleash the Power Within Day 1 here I come!

Day 1 – Registration

I arrived in Los Angeles around 1:00 PM and made my way to my hip boutique hotel near downtown. It’s been almost ten years since the last time I was here. I’ve never had a chance to get to know the city well and I’ve never been here alone without anyone to drive me around.

I love the swank-itude of L.A. in small doses and I do feel like I’m on a mini-adventure. It’s such a fun reminder that we should all occasionally give ourselves outrageous gifts!

The info I had gotten from the Tony Robbins team said registration was tonight but it didn’t say what time. So I decided to make my way to the hotel to check it out and if I was too early I’d just go grab dinner. I arrived at 4:00 PM and the line had already started for doors that weren’t opening until 6:00 PM. That’s the kind of seminar this is.

I’ve heard the key to success here is to give more than you expect to get and then *** BLAMMO *** you’ll receive more in return than you ever could have imagined. With that in mind I let my guard down immediately, made six new friends in line (texts and Facebook friend requests already exchanged) and did my best to keep smiling through the most over the top registration process I’ve ever experienced.

Imagine a hundred volunteers jumping up and down, yelling like crazy, every single one of them coming at you one by one insisting on giving you a high five. I’ve already received a water bottle, some snacks, Tony’s newest book Unshakeable and a 182 page workbook that literally screams “This shit will change your life!” all over it.

There are 9,000 people attending this conference. It is going to be a madhouse of inspiration and positive energy. Haters be damned, I am already so thrilled to be here!